The
Self
Assessment
Measuring capacity, not intention.
This work begins with one question: how does the relationship actually function when pressure is present?
Not who you want to be. Not your intentions. Not your effort. What your partner would likely observe.
Answer based on your behavior in the last 30–60 days. Answer slowly. Answer honestly.
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Required Reflection
Where do I most consistently avoid discomfort?
How does my partner pay the price for that avoidance?
What am I calling communication issues that are actually regulation issues?
Your score is one half of the picture.
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This is where the assessment becomes a conversation.
Share this code with your partner. After she completes the Partner Assessment, she'll enter this code to generate your Comparison Report — showing exactly where your perceptions align and where the gaps are.
Send her this link. She completes her assessment independently, enters your code, and the Comparison Report is generated automatically.
Partner Assessment →