Your Program
Outline
What many call the problem is actually a solution… the question is, what is it actually solving.
Behavior change at this scale doesn't happen through insight alone. It happens through repeated experience of a different way of being — held in relationship, built in the body, sustained through structure — until the new pattern has enough traction to carry itself. The research is clear: habit consolidation requires time, relational contact, and a nervous system regulated enough to learn. We get the body right first. Everything else follows.
- Day 1: Name the fear. Sleep target set. Kitchen. Gym. Shame spiral protocol reviewed together.
- Day 2: First gym session. Goal — showing up, not performance. Evening protocol introduced.
- Day 3: First meal planning session. 3–4 repeatable meals built. Cook together.
- Day 4: Gym. Sleep data reviewed. Protocol adjusted. Implementation intentions set.
- Day 5: Meal prep session 2. Batch cook. Meal timing gaps identified.
- Day 6: Gym. First body observation — what do you notice when you follow through?
- Day 7: Personal Protocol Document delivered. Week 2 intentions set.
- In-person days: Gym, meal prep, coaching.
- Zoom days: 15-min structured check-in — sleep, food, one thing you're tracking today.
- Midpoint session: is sleep improving? What's the relationship to late-night eating now?
- Begin naming: what do you tell yourself right before you bail on a commitment?
- Week 2 close: one shift named. Next edge identified. Week 3 intentions set.
- In-person sessions: Gym, meal prep, interoceptive observation.
- Daily voice memo: 2–3 min — sleep, food, movement, one thing you noticed about yourself or your body.
- You initiate the memo. That transfer of accountability is the point.
- Week 3 close: what do you actually believe about yourself now vs. Day 1? Evidence, not impressions.
- Daily voice memos continue — coach reflects patterns back.
- Day 25 session: Who is in your life? What does drift look like? What is one thing that changes about your world when this ends?
- Day 30 — Closing Ritual: Part 1 — evidence review. Sleep log, food, gym, memos read back. Part 2 — return to the fear named on Day 1. What does the data say about it now?
- Daily voice memos. Coach observes more, intervenes less.
- Day 34 session: What's held since Day 30? What's softening? What needs tending?
- Coach listens for what you flag vs. what you minimize.
- Every-other-day memos. Watching you hold yourself.
- Day 41 session: Name the maintenance architecture concretely — gym days, prep days, early warning signs.
- Day 45 — Close: Evidence review, days 31–45. Forward conversation: what does the 90-day horizon look like?
+ Neuroplasticity Layer
- Week 1: Foundation — daily in-person, all three pillars installed.
- Week 2: Load — alternating in-person and Zoom check-ins.
- Week 3: Witness — 3× in-person, daily voice memos, interoceptive observation.
- Week 4: Own — handoff, Day 30 closing ritual, protocol doc updated.
- Week 5: daily memos, one in-person, coach observes more.
- Week 6: EOD memos, one in-person, Day 45 close.
- 60-day check-in scheduled at close — built in, no upsell.
Why the window matters: Ketamine reliably produces a 24–72 hour window of elevated BDNF and increased synaptic plasticity. New behavioral patterns installed during this window have significantly greater traction than those introduced outside of it. What this layer adds is intentional behavioral and somatic optimization during the periods when your brain is most biologically open to forming new patterns.
- Weekly online coaching session (60 min): observation-focused — what are you noticing about yourself now? What has the regulation work done to the stories you were carrying?
- Daily voice memo continues: sleep, food, movement, one interoceptive observation. Same format, deeper content.
- Values conversation introduced: not what you want to achieve — who do you want to be? That anchor is more durable than any behavioral goal.
- Day 60 — Close: Evidence review of days 46–60. What held? What's still fragile? Forward conversation: what does the next chapter look like?
- Part 1 — The Evidence: 60 days of sleep logs, food patterns, gym attendance, voice memos read back. The data is the data.
- Part 2 — The Story: direct return to the fear named on Day 1. What does 60 days of evidence — including the neuroplasticity work — say about it now?
- 60-day check-in Zoom scheduled at close — built in, no upsell.
Full Arc
- Weeks 1–4 (Foundation → Own): daily intensive, all three pillars, neuroplasticity layer active.
- Weeks 5–6 (Carry + Hold): independence phase, Day 45 close.
- Weeks 7–8 (Consolidate): weekly online + daily memos, values conversation, Day 60 ritual.
- Pre-treatment prep, 0–24 hr window contact, 24–72 hr protocol.
- Integration weaving across arc — behavioral and somatic only.
- Psychological processing remains with your medical provider.
Immersion takes you to Day 60 — which is close to the mean automaticity threshold. Sovereign takes you to Day 90 — where complex multi-behavior change actually consolidates into identity rather than effort. The difference between someone who built good habits and someone who became a different person is what happens in days 61–90.
The contact continues to taper deliberately. The question shifts from behavioral compliance to identity integration — not "am I doing the things" but "is this who I am now?" That is a fundamentally different kind of work, and it requires time and relational witnessing to complete.
- Bi-weekly online session (60 min): identity-level work — the transition from "I am trying to do this" to "this is who I am."
- Every-other-day voice memos: reduced frequency reflects increased internal accountability.
- Relational world conversations: what is one concrete thing changing about your social life? This is named and tracked, not left to chance.
- Confidence and body observation continued — evidence against old stories gathered across sessions.
- Weekly 30-min Zoom check-in: not accountability — witnessing. What does he notice about who he's become?
- Weekly voice memo: one observation. That's it. The frequency reduction is clinical — it tests whether the internal voice has developed enough to carry the function the daily memo was serving.
- Final week: prepare for Day 90 ritual. Gather evidence from the full arc. Name what shifted in the belief that was on the table on Day 1.
- Part 1 — The Evidence: 90 days of sleep logs, food patterns, gym attendance, voice memos read back. The data is the data.
- Part 2 — The Story: direct return to the fear named on Day 1. What does 90 days of evidence say about it? What is still true? What isn't?
- Part 3 — The Forward: who are you now? What does the next chapter look like — not as a goal, but as an identity?
- 60-day post-program check-in scheduled at close.