The Trauma-Informed Husband — Partner Assessment
The Trauma-Informed Husband

The
Partner
Assessment

Your experience is the data.

Coaching Tool — Not a Clinical Instrument This assessment supports reflection and conversation between partners. It is not a clinically validated psychological instrument and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support. Your scores reflect your experience in a specific window of time — they are not a verdict on you, your partner, or your relationship.
⚠ Please Read Before Beginning This assessment is not appropriate if your relationship involves any of the following:
  • Physical intimidation, threats, or violence
  • Fear of your partner's response to your honest answers
  • Emotional retaliation or punishment for speaking truthfully
  • Active coercion, control, or abuse of any kind
If you are unsure whether any of these apply, err on the side of caution. Seek proficient support from a therapist or coach you trust before proceeding.

Complete this on your own, without your partner present or guiding your answers.

Do not soften scores to protect effort. Effort and intention are not the metric — impact is. Answer based on what you've actually experienced in the last 30–60 days.

This assessment is not
  • A performance review
  • A weapon
  • A demand for change
  • Something to argue over
This assessment is
  • A snapshot of lived experience
  • Data for growth
  • A mirror for blind spots
  • A tool for shared understanding
These scores reflect a specific window of time — not a permanent truth about your relationship. Your own history, current stress, and emotional state on the day you take this will influence your answers. Both are valid. That context is worth naming when you discuss results together.
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A note on next steps What you've described reflects significant relational stress. These scores are honest data — and they point toward something that often benefits from more than reflection alone. Consider seeking proficient support from a therapist or coach you trust who can work with both of you directly. This assessment is a starting point, not a substitute for that.
Section Breakdown

For the Husband

Please remember, her scores reflect her felt experience — not a verdict on your intentions. How she has felt with you is not a fact, but it does carry a great deal of useful information, worthy of time and consideration, even when it hurts. We hope that you will carry these thoughts into whatever arises next.

When your partner shares this with you, these are the only questions worth sitting with.

Where is my experience of myself more generous than my partner's experience of me?

What behaviors might she be responding to that I minimize or normalize?

What would change if I treated her assessment as data rather than as judgment?

TTIH — Partner AssessmentEmail Results
A note on privacy: By submitting, you consent to sharing your results with Jonah Berger, a relationship coach at jonahbergercoaching.com, who may follow up. Your email will not be used for anything else without your permission. Your results remain private — they are not visible to your partner unless you choose to share them.
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