Recovering from Recovery:
Why Coaching with Me Is a Different Kind of Healing
If you’ve done 12-step recovery, you know the power of community, accountability, and spiritual surrender.
You’ve hopefully faced yourself through the process of working through the steps. And if you haven't, then there’s something that you’re most likely afraid of…I know this because I lived it for years. I avoided getting into the nitty gritty of step work because I was scared of what people would think, and more than that, I was afraid of looking into my shadow… Eventually, I took the leap and found myself freer than I had ever been… but it took about 4 years of mostly white knuckles and service and a lot of pain and suffering.
Even after sharing my shadow parts with another being, I did not understand the treal importance this held for me. After many years of self-exploration(mindfulness practices and meditation techniques), therapy, finding many spiritual elders to learn with, and learning how to utilize plant medicines, I was able to integrate the parts of myself that continued to impact my coping skills in my reactions and responses to life(I am still doing it today).
If you’ve sat in these circles, hopefully you’ve spoken enough truth to relieve some suffering. If you have stopped
And if you’re anything like many of the clients I work with, you’re also beginning to feel the edges of that model.
You’re sensing it’s time to go deeper.
Not just into behavior change, but into embodiment.
Not just sobriety, but working with deeper parts of your Self.
This is where our work together begins.
12-Step Recovery: A Sacred Starting Point
Let me be clear: 12-step programs save lives. They offer a structured, time-tested framework that helps people stabilize, stay sober, and reconnect to something greater than themselves.
They’re rooted in spiritual principles, humility, and mutual support.
For many, they’re the first taste of belonging and transformation.
But as powerful as the steps are, they’re not designed to help you fully integrate trauma, reclaim your nervous system, or understand the deeper roots of your patterns.
And for some, the language of powerlessness, moral defect, or perpetual recovery begins to feel limiting.
The Path of Integration
The work I do isn’t about replacing recovery. It’s about expanding it.
Where traditional recovery says, “I am an addict,”
Our work together will help you remember: You are a whole, wise being who adapted to survive.
Where the steps focus on behavioral change,
I support you in somatic healing, emotional literacy, and spiritual embodiment.
Where the emphasis is on control and abstinence,
I invite curiosity, compassion, and conscious choice.
What Makes This Work Different?
✦ Nervous System Regulation
We don’t just talk about feelings—we help you feel them safely. Through breathwork, mindfulness, and body-based practices, we create the internal safety needed to explore trauma, grief, anger, and joy.
✦ Emotional Literacy
We name and map your emotional world—learning to feel deeply without getting lost. This isn’t about managing emotions, it’s about metabolizing them.
✦ Shadow Integration
Instead of labeling parts of you as broken or defective, we welcome them home. Addictive patterns, codependency, rage, avoidance—all become doorways into deeper understanding.
✦ Spiritual Discernment
You don’t need to surrender to a “higher power” outside of yourself. This work is about reclaiming your direct connection to Source, intuition, and inner knowing.
Not performative spirituality. Embodied presence.
For Those Ready to Graduate from Survival
If you’ve done the work to get sober but still feel:
Numb or ungrounded
Disconnected from your body
Tired of looping in the same relational dynamics or addictive patterns
Craving depth, truth, and something more sacred
Then you may be ready for this kind of work.
This isn’t about “fixing” you. It’s about helping you remember who you are beneath the patterns.
Final Word
Understanding that nothing in life is free, the limiting beliefs that 12-step recovery can impose onto our psyches can be damaging to our ability to live a free and unobstructed life, unobstructed by others’ opinions of what is or should be. If you want to learn how to re learn how to think for yourself, you will need more than 12 steps of any program or 10 commandments of any religion. The “brainwashing” was much needed, and at a certain point, it gave me diminishing returns.
12-step work helps you survive without the use of substances in daily life, but alone, it is limiting…
Our work together can help you come alive beyond others’ ideas of what is acceptable for being trapped in identification with addiction.
And if you’re sensing that subtle call or you're curious about that quiet invitation into a deeper experience of yourself-
I invite you to step into the next chapter of your healing.
Let’s walk it together.
